Nobody told me when I signed up for this parenting thing that it would be so hard; so fraught with worry. No one said that there would be so many difficult decisions to make. I see these fine lines forming a spiderweb under my eyes and I see Chris’s sideburns turning grayer each day. Yes, we are 37 and these things are bound to happen but we must also blame the kids for causing speedy aging.
We recently put in the video Chris made for the triplets first birthday party. It was a chronicle of life from the time I was sticking needles in my belly for the hormone injections prior to In Vetro Fertilization, all the way to when the triplets turned one. The kids love watching the video. It is pretty amazing. But what was a little horrifying this last time I watched it was to notice how much I have aged over the past four years. My skin was smooth and firm and my hair fixed nicely– when I used to make the time and money to highlight it blonde.
There have been big decisions to make about schooling. Furthermore, with class sizes creeping up to ridiculous sizes, it is our job as parents to make sure our children are not falling through the cracks — whether they need extra help learning or whether they need to be challenged more. Maybe I’ll look back on this time one day and wonder why I worried so much about my kids’ schooling, or maybe I’ll think, wow, we were really on top of our kids’ schooling and it really paid off.
So we are entering Christmas break and Chris and I don’t have to think about school for 2 1/2 weeks, but we do have to think about how we are going to get through this time with 3 year old triplets and an extremely high energy 7 year old. We asked Ava’s teacher to make up a list of assignments for her to work on over break to keep her busy. Her teacher probably thinks we are “Tiger Parents”, but in reality, it is just a matter of survival. A bored Ava is a miserable Ava and a miserable Ava makes for extremely miserable parents.
I do think that the holidays are a fun time for adults as well as children; an opportunity to go out with friends and family and eat, drink and be generally jolly. Last night Chris, Molly, Nima and I went out to Ella downtown Sacramento for a fantastic dining experience. We were at the restaurant from 6pm until almost midnight. Chris and I brought two bottles of red and Molly and Nima brought a sparkling wine and a bottle of red and we sat at our table and slowly ate and drank the night away. We had courses of appetizers, salads, entrees and talked non-stop for four hours. Other than Santa and presents and lots of Christmas songs, that is what the holiday season is all about. I regret to say that we were so busy enjoying ourselves that we forgot to take any pictures.
I have to share this awesome website with you. You can create a personalized message from Santa to your child. It is free, and it is a big hit! http://www.portablenorthpole.tv/home.
Ava-ism: We had a meeting with Ava’s teacher on Thursday and we asked how she did on her poster timeline. Her teacher said, “oh, she did a great job! She explained everything in her timeline clearly and looked at her audience. Oh, except, (pause, uncomfortable chuckle) she did tell the class that there is no such thing as the tooth fairy when she got to the part about losing her first tooth. I laughed really hard. I threw my head back and laughed really hard. That girl is unbelievable.
Until next time, the mothership is signing off.